Coaching -The C in NLC
Newsletter 5_The map is not the territory
"The map is not the territory is a concept developed by noted mathematician Alfred Korzybski. Korzybski developed the concept to explain the fact that belief is different from reality. In other words, our perception of the world could be different from the real world. While it might sound too obvious, a surprisingly large number of people tend to confuse their beliefs with reality."
Source :The Map is Not The Territory Explained in Simple Terms – Club Street Post
The videos and articles I share here mostly come from the world of NLP (which has nothing to do with Neurolanguage Coaching). I just couldn't find a clear explanation that wasn't in some way linked to NLP
I'm not sure why the quote is more often associated with NLP (Alfred Korzybski wasn't, he came way before) as it is applicable to everyone and everything.
Being aware of the fact that "the map is not the territory" and realizing that you most certainly have your own map which is different from that of the person you are talking too, can help tremendously in being less judgemental towards others but also towards yourself.
(I mean, imagine you're walking with a map on your phone that isn't the same map as the person walking next to you, how confusing is that?)
As a language learner, you have probably more than once believed that you sounded dumb or that people were making fun of you. It is most likely that none of it is true in absolute terms. It's YOUR truth and you might want to reconsider those stories ;-)
Newsletter 4_Teeny Tiny habits
"A little goes a long way"
(il suffit de peu pour obtenir beaucoup)
You don't have to read the book and apply the methods it describes.
What you need to know is that your brain learns in small bites (see the video below to learn more about this) and having small tiny habits is a way of eating that big cake in small bites.
Mini habits are also an amazing tool for me to use in coaching : working together with my coachee to figure out which mini habits you can easily fit in your crazy busy life. Once you have those in place, they don't go away after your coaching is over. You can keep learning and progressing seamlessly.
Ask yourself for example : what could I do every day, that would take just a couple of minutes and teach me new words ?
Newsletter 3_July 2022
You usually don't eat a big cake in one bite. You eat it bite after bite, and you relish each bite. That's what chunking is all about : smaller pieces that you might actually enjoy (and remember, there's a much bigger chance that you stick with something you enjoy).
"Chunking is a strategy used to reduce the cognitive load as the learner processes information. The learner groups content into small manageable units making the information easier to process. Essentially, chunking helps in the learning process by breaking long strings of information into bite size chunks that are easier to remember."
Newsletter 2_June 2022 -
I love this definition by Tim Robbins
" Goal setting can look different depending on an individual’s lifestyle, values and definition of success. Your goals are unique to you and don’t need to look like anyone else’s.
The classic goal-setting definition boils down to the process of identifying something you want to accomplish and establishing measurable objectives and timeframes to help you achieve it. Goal setting can help you in any area of your life, from achieving financial freedom to adopting a healthy diet."
(to learning a language ;-)
Newsletter 1_May 2022 :
"Before we can believe in a goal, we first must have an idea of what it looks like. To paraphrase the old adage: we must see it before we can believe it.
This is where visualization comes in, which is simply a technique for creating a mental image of a future event. When we visualize our desired outcome, we begin to "see" the possibility of achieving it. Through visualization, we catch a glimpse of what is, in the words of one writer, our "preferred future." When this happens, we are motivated and prepared to pursue our goal."